Before i start to talk bou` my fantastic weekends, ima gonna cont` sharing bout` kristine carlsoon.
3. Let it go already
Maybe out partners have done things like not being a good listener or may have flirted with some other people. We have the highest tendency to see it as a pattern that it will happen again, thus fill our heads with doubts, fears and addtional concerns.
It is tough to be with someone who hold us with sky-high mission impossible demands, and who makes no room in their hearts that we are human afterall. If your mind is filled with concerns, reminders of past happenings, problems, the likelihood of your relationship (on your side) filled with fears, suspicion, and frustration(everything but love). it happen to everyone, dont even try to hide it.
with the frustration and resentment build up, then you will eventually blew up and create a scene. this method is not telling us to be a 'chicken' or whatsoever. Just that, the next time he/she makes a mistakes, dont turn it into a gigantic event...instead remain loving and supportive.
the holding on of past issues made us uptight, try to forgive and forget though easier said than done. but the pot of gold you will recieve will be a richer, more open and honest, loving and nourishing relationship.
4. Turn up the heat
From my point of view, this method works the best.
It says mend things with warmth and love; becoming kinder, generous and dish out compliments. Choose being kind over being right. Sounds tough huh?
Most of da time, people will always say "i cant change anything until certain conditions are met, until he/she begins to change." BUT look the problem here is, the type of change you are looking for is almost close impossible in the absence of HEAT. Make subtle changes and become softer.
*hope that helps. cont` with da rest in the next entry.
Let me start with thursday.
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that sweet child who just finished his paper, called and exclaimed how happy he was to finish his exam. (: it's sweet for people to share their joy with you, esp immediately after tha papers. *awww*
we met up and head to arab street for dinner. i missed that place so much man. however, the thing i MISS most is the MEE REBUS. *yummy* there's just this thing about arab street that attracts me. the next trip to arab street wil be for sheesha. I havent get to try it yet!! There's a lot more nice places to dine at, like Blu Jack ( jazzy place), Blue Oasis....
if you want a short getaway for the busy streets, head to arab street. serious.
Then comes TGIF. Made dinner plan with gabriel at Chinatown. There's jsut so much good food over there. Dim Sum, Congee, Durian, and all sort of desserts. we head to hawker's street for dinner.
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window shopping after dinner. Chinatown is more than what it looks like, it's a earrings heaven. however, i resist alll evil temptions and only bought one. (yea yea i know not again but let me tell you, thats a privillage being a GIRL*) anyway, its cheap so doesnt cause that much of damage.
made my trip downnn to woodlands for sundae hot fudge and star-gazing. yup, i meant every words i said, STAR GAZING at the ledge of the pavement, with the breezes running through your hair. of'cos with that sweet child with me.
caught the last train home. the almost imminent plonk on my comfy bed is so not voidable. (: my day was certainly satisfying.
Spent my saturday afternoon shopping with my girl, ling at bugis. I made a vow not to shop but i still did. hahaa lucky its not an evil vow, or else oppsy daisy. Adding all those buys to my collections, i guess that will be like 70 to 80 pairs of earrings. hurrr~more to join da club though. i aint stopping. i bought this green handbag from dorothy perkins, it's a steal for only $16.
Gotta leave early for cousin clara's birthday party. bid good bye, but we wil meet up soon for ecp outing aite? seriously, not at 5 am in da morning.
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Cousin Roan and I
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Cousin Corrine and I
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the kiddy palace, the elder cousins like roan, corrine and i were darn busy planning games for them. it's tougher than i thought. now, ima having second thought for having 2 kids.
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that's rachel ima huggin`, she's half thai and chinese. one pretty doll. it's goes da same for her lil` sister michelle.
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cousin joash, everyone loves him in da family. the new member in da family, joreen somehow gonna take over his place. but hes still my favourite cousin.
it's sunday. not so much of a family day for me but i do have a date with wei yong in town at 3pm. gotta catch a quick nap before i get ready
enjoy the rest of the weekends before monday come falling down on us. dont worrie, the weekends will still arrive in 5 short days. stay optimistic and loved.
xoxo, shann
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